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One of the most romantic
occasions in the life of a couple is the renewal
of vows. Just when everything seems to be too
fallen into place, you can rekindle the passions
of yesteryear by recommitment to each other. The
asking of such a renewal can come in many
“colors”.
For instance, one of our recent dresses will
adorn a lovely lady whose husband asked her to remarry
him in front of 174 of their friends, on a dance
floor, as a hush had fallen on the room. He
dropped to his knees and proposed again. The
entire room felt his radiant love for her.
Although several children and more than one
hardship had been shared, this man considered
her to be his best friend, his confidant, and
his bride. If you were here when this couple
came in for fitting, you would have seen that
the anticipation was probably stronger than that
of the original wedding night.
For instance, another couple was about to be
separated. He was called from the reserves to
join his fellow soldiers in Iraq. He told his
wife that he was trained and prepared to fulfill
his duty. She told him that she was afraid for
his life and for the future of their family.
Through a renewal of vows, they experienced the
rush of adrenaline that their grandparents
experienced in WWII. Her confidence was renewed.
His assurance of a loving return was met.
For instance, a couple was looking for the
perfect way to celebrate their 25th
wedding anniversary. Their wedding had been very
formal. They had relatively no say-so in any
detail. A wedding director had overseen. The
mother of the bride had selected most everything
from dress style to florals for that wedding.
The church minister chose the vows. They were so
nervous, that if it had not been for a
photographer, they would have almost no
recollection of the event. Now, they could
re-kindle the commitment. Now, they could have a
ceremony that they would remember forever. Now,
they could share their love with friendships
they had built together as a couple.
God blesses these re-commitments. None of us are
perfect. Yet, none of us deserve to feel alone.
As we age, our blemishes become apparent. God
says for us to remember the wife of our youth.
This wisdom does not restrict itself in gender.
Ladies remember the husband of your youth. When
we know we are married, but feel so apart from
the spouse of our youth, it is time for a second
look at the reasons we chose to spend our lives
with this person. As we mature, our character
more than our appearances, become most
important.
Philosophers have told us for centuries, to act
as if, see ourselves as, believe in, … and
then, it will come true. To have the
“perfect” marriage, we must see ourselves in
that relationship. We must believe that the
person who washes our underwear, or who changes
our oil, is our soul-mate. How can you better
show your commitment to your relationship, than
to renew sacred vows?
I believe age can widen visions, rather than
dull the senses. Your wife has probably grown
more beautiful now, than she was in her youth.
(Even though marriage probably put several
wrinkles in her smile. She certainly cooked a
couple pounds on man’s middle!) May a tear
come to your eye each time you dwell on her
loyalties, her devotion and her submissions to
the “us”, rather than to her self or to some
promise made by a passionate “passer-by”.
These rare qualities are worth more than gold!
Every day, praise God for her love. At
evening’s tide, long to return home for her
embrace.
Perhaps
it is time that you too should consider a public
re-commitment to your darling! Will she consider
your years together too soon for this? You might
need 6 months to a year for planning. I think it
wise to begin setting up a proper occasion to
ask!
Chuck |
